Greetings fabulous readers!

I am writing today from my brand new fabulous computer.  It is a red Gateway laptop…with lots of bells and whistles!  We have named her "Ruby"~  Thanks to my son for coming up with the name…he is a writer and collects names for his characters.  I think that "Ruby" is going to show up in a story soon!

Since the weather has been fairly warm recently, my son and I have been going hiking together.  During these hikes he has been sharing about the novel that he is writing.  Now, this is really a big honor because he is a fairly superstitious fella.  I think writers are kinda like ball players…they have to use certain things in certain order or they will lose the game.  They have to have certain snacks to eat while they are writing or the flow will be tampered with.  They have to back up their work in certain ways on certain types of things or the world will end and the creative flow will dry up forever! 

Anyway, my son has not felt comfortable sharing his work because if he does…just saying things out loud will stop his flow of writing and the story will crash and burn and he will never be able to write again!

He may have gotten some of these superstitions from me…but, I can’t talk about them because if I do…it will wake up the energies of these things and they will come true.  Enough said!

Anyway, back to the hiking. 
The other day we went on a fun trail and my son spent the whole hike talking about this really awesome story that he is writing.  When I tried to ask any questions or say anything, he would sorta talk over me and continue sharing about this, that and the other concept.  I soon realized that he was processing his thoughts out loud.  I was just there to listen. So I hunkered down and shut my mouth and let him talk. 

And talk he did.  I don’t think he has talk that much to me since he was 15!

As I listened to his concepts, I was blown away that this kid, who was a little boy just a blink ago…is a young adult. I mean, I have sorta known this for awhile…sorta!  But, something happened while he was talking and working through his story line..it really clicked.

How did I not notice this before? 

Where the hell have I been?

It is funny that all I needed to do was to shut up and listen.  Shut up and really listen!  Not, try to come up with inquiring questions  or  feedback…or any of that. 

Our hike lasted for about an hour and a half and during that time I didn’t say much of anything.  I just hiked and listened…listened and hiked and totally enjoyed this young man who happens to be my son.  And now I know, without a shadow of a doubt that no matter what…he will figure life out.  He has the skill, he has the tenacity…he has the humor…he has it…he has what he needs. 

And if he gets stuck and decides that he wants to talk about what he is stuck on…all I have to do is shut up and listen!!!!

Here is a fun chance for you my fabulous readers to try this yourselves…if ya want!  The next time someone tries to talk to you…especially your kids…try shushing…and just listen.  Just allow the persons thoughts to unfold.  Just allow them to be where they are. 

Enjoy!

Smooches everyone!

The other day my fella and I were hangin out chattin’ about stuff when all of a sudden he looks at me very intently.

"Is everything all right?"  I asked~

"Yep!  I just think you are beautiful!"  my fella said~

"Oh, I thought I had something on my face!" 

I giggled nervously~

As I sat there thinking about this exchange…I thought: "Huh…cute for sure, pretty…sometimes…but, beautiful…that’s a stretch!"

So I turned to my fella and asked him if he was feeling alright.  I started thinking that for sure something was wrong…like he was gonna die or something.  He was saying this because some big disaster was about to happen and I would be left alive and alone remembering with deep grief how much he loved me and thought I was beautiful.  I waited for the ground to shake and something heavy to fall on his head~

Nothing happened.

As I have pondered my response to my fellas complement, I started to think about my history with complements and acknowledgments.  The ones that fit neatly into the views that I hold of myself feel just dandy.  The ones that are out of my realm of thought, stir up the worry that the end is near!

How did I come to this conclusion?

Well, I have known many folks who have died…lots of close friends and one husband.  What they all had in common was before their journeys they ALL became very verbally warm and loving.  It is like they all knew, on some level, that it was time to share the love that they felt with those around them.

So, thats my story! 
Too much love and compliments means the end of the world!
Okay, I know what your thinking!  This logic doesn’t really hold up. 

If circle A= all people who acknowledge and compliment me in unusual ways…
which slightly intersects circle B= the thoughts I think about myself…
and circle C (which slightly intersects both A and B)= those folks who have dropped dead after an unusual acknowledgment or complement.  We can see from this that my logic is slightly….just slightly flawed!

Hmmmmmmm…better rethink this one.
Maybe….just maybe if my fella tells me that I am beautiful that might mean he was just seeing something about me in that moment that he wanted to share. 
Hmmmmmmm…nah!  It CAN"T mean that!  I think that I need to spend a bit of time with this one:)

So, dear readers, what is your story?

Where does your mind go when someone acknowledges you, or gives you a compliment that doesn’t fit the world view you hold of yourself?

How do you respond to them?

Have a love filled day~

Hello fabulous readers!

I was out and about yesterday shopping for some this and that.  The overwhelming advertisements for Valentines Day was thick in the air.  Pink, red and white…oh my!!!!  Oh and lots of heart shaped decorations. 

Now, this didn’t inspire my inner romantic to come out and play…do I even have an inner romantic?  Hmmmmmmmm~  Rather, this inspired my inner rebel to come out and play. I was making wise cracks about this, that and the other thing.  I was on a roll, which I thought was hilarious when my fella turned to me and asked:  "What has gotten into you?"  After some smug remarks shot back at him, I wondered about this rebelliousness oozing out of me. 

What has gotten into me?

Now, I am person who is surrounded by love and sends love out by the bucket fulls.  I love love!  My work with people is all about the love of self and sending that love out into the world.  So, how come Valentines Day bugs me so much?  You would think that I would be the kind of person who makes glittered hearts and hangs them on my front door.  Actually, I did do that a few times when the boys were young…but, that was an art project we did together and they wanted to place it in a spot to be witnessed by the world.  This spot happened to be the front door!

So…here it is…ready?

What bothers me about Valentines Day is that some how all the advertising, and bombardment of "LOVE" during the weeks preceding this day, wakes up the "Love Critic!"  Do you know who I am talking about?  That inner beast that uses this time of year to point out all the problems that you have with love.  The inner critic is live and well…living in a town close to you!

And since I was on a roll making wise cracks about this advertisement and that advertisement…there was a good chance that my inner love critic was somehow being activated. 

Yep!

That is what was happening! 

My inner love critic had been whispering sweet nothings in my ear for about a week.  And since I had been unconsciously shoo-ing it away…it was beginning to yell at me! 
It tends to say the same things:  I suck because (fill in the blank…different things on different days!)

And since it likes to be right…it had been gathering proof for awhile!!!

Sneaky little sucker!

Okay.  So, now that I was able to hear what it was saying, I was able to do some this, that and the other thing to soften its steady voice. 

I have decided to not only send out valentines to all of those folks that I love…I am going to also send one out to me.  Because even though I can find all of this proof of how I am not loveable, I can also find lots of proof that I am loveable.  Where do I want to put my focus? 

Where do you want to put your focus.
Remember where ever we put our focus we can find proof that we are right. 
We get to choose what direction we want to take!

So, if you feel inspired…and even if you don’t, send a lovely love note to yourself.  Not just for Valentines Day…but, for everyday!   Loving others is a wonderful thing…loving the self is the tough one.  It is where most of us have a struggle. 

Wishing you a life time of self love~
Peace!

Hello dudes and dudettes!

I work with many folks who step into the depression and despair due to traumas and life difficulties.  Most of us have em’.  We flow in and out of the blues during various times of our lives and under various conditions.

We have our highs…yippeeeeeee!!!!

We have our middle place…sometimes boring, sometimes not!

…and we have our lows.  Give me a gun!!!!

We all have em. 

No exception.

Doesn’t matter how much "work" you do on yourself….life is gonna happen and sometimes life is gonna happen hard. 

I am talking about this because we all can be so hard on ourselves when we land in the middle or take a dive down into the lower realms. 
I recently had a client say to me:  "I know this doesn’t sound very enlightened Lynne, but I feel very sad and depressed!"

I stopped her right there!  I just wanted to wrap her in a cozy blanket and make her some chocolate chip cookies!!!!

Since when did being "enlightened" have anything to do with whether we are sad or depressed?  Do we have to be "happy happy joy joy" all the time in order to claim enlightenment?  Are we not allowed to dip down into the fussier of emotions?  If that is the case, I am so far off the mark, I might as well call it a day! 

I want to dispel this myth right here…right now!!!!
I am sick of it!!!
I am tired of fabulous people feeling bad about themselves because they have a dip in their sense of emotional well being!!!

We are all here…which means every single one of us is worthy…which means every single ones of us is enlightened.  Even stupid people!!!!  Even your spouses who "don’t get it!"  Even your friends who keep making "the same mistake over and over again!"  Even yourself…who is far from perfect!  We all have moments of grace.  We all have moments of brilliance.  We all have moments of sheer stupidity.  We all have moments of joy.  We all have moments of boredom.  We all have moments of despair!

In fact, let’s just take "being enlightened" out of our conversations.  Because at the root of judging yourself or others as not being very enlightened is not feeling worthy.  And guess what?  You are here on this planet!  You are worthy!  Its a done deal!

You don’t have to prove a damned thing!

So, the next time you feel down in the dumps because of this, that and the other thing…I want you to notice what you are telling yourself this dip means about you. Notice if you have any judgments.  If you find some judgments hidden under some rocks, I want you to challenge those little suckers. 

Ask yourself: 

• Is that true?

• Can I absolutely know that it’s true?

• How do I react when I think that thought?

• Who would I be without that thought?

These questions will help you loosen the judgments up.  Once the judgments feel a bit loose then you can pat yourself on the back. 

"Yay me!  I challenged my thinking!"
"Yay me!  I stopped making myself wrong for feeling depressed!"

Just that shift in the judgement will soften the depression. 

The next time you have a dip in your emotions…be nice to yourself.  Love yourself up anyway!!!  Give yourself a break!  Know that you are worthy no matter what! 

Imagine me wrapping you up in a nice cozy blanket and making you a nice, yummy batch of chocolate chip cookies.

You are alive!
You are worthy!
Enough said!!!!

I received this poem yesterday from Caroline Myss Newsletter.  It spoke to my heart and articulated in a lovely way the intention that I hold for myself and others.

Enjoy~

Peace to you~

Hello there!
Hope you are doing dandy!

This was sent to me by a fabulous babe that I have had the honor of working with.  Hope you enjoy it! 

Light hearted and fun indeedy!!!!!

What Science Fiction Character are you?

Here are my results:

GALADRIEL:

Possessing a rare combination of wisdom and humility, while serenely dominating
your environment you selflessly use your powers to care for others.

Even the smallest person can change the course of the future.

Galadriel is a character in the Middle-Earth universe~

Ah well….I secretly had hoped that I would be some bad-ass babe like Zena or something!  But no, I tend to be the "caring for others" kind of babe!  I DO believe that the "smallest person can change the course of the future."  In fact, I say that sort of thing alot!!!
These personality tests are sooooooooooo innerestin!  Ya know?

IF you feel inspired…please share your results:)

Have a Sci-fi kinda day!