Hi there!

Kerry, over at “Lemon-aide”, has asked me to chat a bit about what to say to people who offer platitudes when you are journeying through something rough like a chronic illness, a death, loss of a job…whatever.

I have been thinking about this since she asked me…it is a tough question.

What do we say to people who offer lame platitudes?

What makes this question so difficult is that usually, when a lame platitude is shared, we are in a place of vulnerability…when we are feeling vulnerable…things like this can really shake us up.

Years back, when I was widowed…I remember one particularly rough platituder…she had platitudes pouring out of her. Every time I saw her these weird statements came out of her mouth. These platitude’s caused me extreme distress. I tensed up every time I saw her.

Because I was raised by fairly polite people (more…)

Hello you gorgeous readers you! I am busy doing this, that and the other thing and have missed some days of blogging…but, I am back now…to entertain you with my wit!

Anyway…today I want to piggy back off some blog posts that are being written by Jenny over at

“Using my powers for good.”

She is discussing what not to say to someone who is dealing with a chronic health condition. If you get a chance to read this…please do. She is witty and mad as hell! When I read her posts I began to think about “Platitudes.” Many people like to pull these out of their hats when they don’t know what the hell else to say. Well, here is an idea…don’t say ANYTHING! Just LISTEN! But, I will get back to that in a minute.

I have experienced this personally when I was widowed some years back…and when I had a handful of years dealing with a chronic health condition. People would get all uncomfortable and then start saying a line that they thought was supportive…or maybe not…maybe they just wanted to ease their discomfort.

I don’t know.

But, I was always left feeling bad that their platitude made me feel so bad. Their lame remark (more…)

Good day’

This morning I woke up to rain! Not only is it raining out…it is nice and cool:) The type of weather makes me want to read a good book or pretend to write one:)

Ok…back to the topic at hand.

Lately, I have been working with many people on this whole concept of “ASKING.” And…this has been coming up for me too. No shock there! I think that many of us were raised in families that taught us that asking for what we wanted was rude…or selfish…or wrong.

In my family, if I asked for something, I was quickly reprimanded and shamed. I quickly learned not to ask for anything. I can remember wanting something at the grocery store (usually a hostess apple pie) and I would pray to God that my mom would figure this out and offer to buy me one. If she did offer this (which was rare), I would have to act all surprised…like I hadn’t thought of that. I would need to demonstrate appropriate gratitude. Then, I would have to wait until she offered it too me back at home. It felt very restrictive. There were all of these pot holes that I could fall into…and much of the time I did…so, this treat would be taken away until I was able to follow the rules properly.

It was a very stressful (more…)

Hello there! Remember me? I used to write a blog? It has been a gazillion years since I have last written anything. Well…that may be a slight exaggeration!

I am back from our fabulous vacation. My fella and I went to Carmel for a beautiful wedding and visited with many old friends. Then we cruised on up the road and stopped to play on our favorite beaches. We had a great time. The most amazing part of all of this, besides seeing old friends and being by the ocean, was that I was out of pain. No pain. None. Nada. All gone!!!

I was able to sit, walk, twirl, cartwheel, be in the sun, be in the heat, pick up luggage, put luggage down…oh my…the list goes on and on…it was fantastic.

*Note to self: Send surgeon a bouquet of flowers and my first born son as a thank you!

I am in awe (more…)

One of my favorite questions to ask people is: "What is your soul giving birth too?"

If I am working with some one in a relationship, I ask them: "What is your relationship wanting to give birth too?"

This can apply to your relationship with your kids, friends and coworkers: "What is this relationship wanting to give birth too?"

Even if you have a health concern, this is such an interesting and lovely way to explore your inner journey with the illness: "What is this illness wanting to give birth too?"

Many times we already (more…)