Looks like it is going to be another gorgeous day here in Colorado.  Hope your neck of the woods is lovely too!

If you read the first "Your Truth," you may have become aware that some of our "truths" can change and morph depending on who is around us, what kind of mood we are in, how we are feeling physically…etc.  There are other truths that seem to be more rigid…oops, I mean more "TRUE." 

For example:  I am rigidly opposed to mayonnaise.  I just don’t think that it should exist.  It might even be the root of all evil!  But, since I am a "progressive" I can be open minded about mayonnaise.  If YOU want to use it on your sandwich…or your hamburgers (don’t ask!  They use mayonnaise on everything here in Colorado), its cool with me.   Now, there are some rules attached to this.  If I am sharing a sandwich with you….DO NOT let that mayonnaise touch my bread or I will not be able to eat the darned thing.  I don’t mind if you want to put mayonnaise on a sandwich in front of me, but if the knife lays on your plate full of unused mayonnaise, I will loose my appetite. 

This is "my truth."  Luckily for me, my fella dislikes mayonnaise as much as I do…and so do my kids.  Though, I don’t really know if my sons like it or not…I just told them it was the root of all evil while they were growing up and they have decided to trust me on that one.  JUST IN CASE!

LYNNE’S TRUTH:  Mayonnaise= The Root Of All Evil

Now, you may be a mayonnaise lover (I shudder at the thought).  Which would mean that you do not share my truth.  You may think that mayonnaise makes a sandwich worth eating!  You may think that my truth is so nuts that you decide never to read my blog again!  If you are a super big supporter of mayonnaise, you might even tell all of your friends that I am some kind of freak who just doesn’t understand the RIGHT way to eat a sandwich.

YOUR (possible) TRUTH:  Mayonnaise= The Yummiest Part of A Sandwich

So, if these possibilities are both true…how can they both exist at the same time? 

I am being rather light hearted about this but, if I was talking about politics, or….dum dum dum…religion…things would get a little more intense. 

The challenge for us all is to realize that what is true for us may not be true for someone else.  And here is the kicker….all truths seem to be true….at least on some level.  To the believer in that truth…they will find all sorts of "proof" to substantiate that belief.  As will the non believer of that truth.  Everyone can find proof for everything they believe in. 
I can prove without a shadow of a doubt that mayonnaise is the root of all evil.  A mayonnaise lover can just as easily prove that mayonnaise is the yummiest part of the sandwich!

In all the truths floating around this big ol’ diverse fantastic world, which ones are "THE TRUTH"?

Now, to add another component to this conversation is the tendency for us all to need other people to join us in believing what we believe.  I may want to start a club that focuses on mayonnaise being the root of all evil.  Us club members would sit around sharing the proof of this truth.  At some point we would probably want to expand our group so we would need to talk other people into believing what we believed in.  On and on and on….OK now I feel a bit nauseas talking about mayonnaise so much!

You get my drift!

If you feel inspired spend some time noticing how you feel when someone else has a different "truth" then you do. 

What do you tell yourself that means about you? 

What do you tell yourself that means about the other person?

Try and be as curious as you can be.

Would love to hear your comments!

I will continue to explore this with the next focus being on "your truth" as it expresses itself in relationships.

Have a truly groovy day!

Greetings wonderful humans~

I hope you all had a lovely weekend. 

Part of my weekend was lovely…that was Saturday.  Part of my weekend was rough…that was Sunday. 

On Saturday, I cleaned the house, talked to some of my friends on the phone and went to my first training at the radio station.  I enjoyed all of this.  I love a clean house.  I love chatting with my friends and I enjoy when something new engages my brain!

On Sunday…actually it started at about 2am on Sunday…I had a visit from my "health blip"  This time it did not want to be refereed to as a "blip."  It was more of a "You are going down for the count my friend!!!!!"  Well, it took me down all day and I still have some of the pain this morning.  Let me put it this way;  Yesterday, I could hardly talk.  Today, I can barely sit. 

What I am showcasing for you all is the incredible contrast between Saturday, Sunday and today.  "My Truth" is different for each of these days.  It is NOT a set point.  It is very fluid.  On Saturday, I would have told you that "My truth" is "all is well."  "Life is good."  "I am so loved…and I love so many."  "MY house is beautiful."  "My body is strong and fabulous."

On Sunday…these "truths" had altered.  Rather than feeling like an empowered bad-ass babe, I felt like a victim to my body.  I wondered about what the hell had happened that this pain came in so intensely after such a wonderful day.  What did I do wrong?  All was NOT well.  I wondered about all the love that I have towards others and their love of me.  I only questioned the love that others have toward me!  I worried about some of the major repairs that we need to do on our home…or should we move?  My body did not feel strong and fabulous.

Today, I am feeling a slight breeze of hope.  I am feeling love pulsing more strongly through me.  My home feels cozy and pretty.  My body feels tired and tender.

What I am exploring here with you is how much "Your Truth" changes.  The contrast I experienced these three days is all "true" I suppose.  Or it may not be.  All that might be "true" is that I am expressing to you what I was able to focus on those days.  My ability to interpret my world changed dramatically from Saturday to Sunday.  My filtering system changed.  One day I filtered through my lens of "all is well."  The next day, my filtering system was through a haze of pain. 

I would like to propose that part of our spiritual journey is to move beyond the black of white of "your truth."  Play with the idea that there is no set "truth."  Everything is truth and Nothing is truth. 

Rather than focusing on what is TRUE…focus on what feels expansive.  You will notice that on different days your ability to connect with this feeling of expansion will change.  What elicits this feeling of expansion will change.  How long you are able to sustain this feeling of expansion changes.

On days that I have pain, I notice that my ability to connect with what feels expansive is very different because my focus keeps going back to witnessing the pain.  On days that I have no pain…I have so much more capacity for expansion…I have a different sense of freedom towards what I am able to focus on. 

For fun…notice those concepts that are "your truth."  You can play with lighters truths, such as favorite colors or favorite foods…what ever floats your boat.  You can also explore more deeper concepts like love, or beauty…again, what ever floats your boat!

Notice how these truths feel to you from moment to moment…from day to day.

• DO these truths change in intensity?

• What needs to be in place in order for these truths to be fluid?

• What forces are in place when these truths feel rigid?

The focus here is to witness…not to judge. 
I will explore this more in the next few blogs. 

Enjoy!!!!! 

Hello cutie patuties!!!!!

How is everyone doing today?

I have decided to share something with you all that does not shine the best light on me;) I am doing this because I have noticed a strange tendency for folks to project onto me this idea that I am a "got my shit together totally" kind of person. Well, if this has been your fantasy…let me take a moment to shatter that:) I am human…like everyone else.

Here is just one (of a gazillion) pieces of proof.

My fella and I have been together for about 12ish years…maybe more…I have difficulty remembering dates and numbers! Anyhoo, during these years we have had our ups and downs. One of my areas of challenge is that I like things "just so." Everything in our house has a place….and I believe that when you use something, that something really ought to return to its PROPER PLACE! My fella, on the other hand, has a slight (oops actually more than slight) case of ADD and he thinks that things should…I dunno…be put down ANYWHERE.

This has been a bit of a frustration for me all of these years.
*I am lying. I really just want to strangle him and yell: "SNACKS GO BACK ON THE SNACK SHELF….not next to the aluminum foil and baggies….WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU????????

But, I don’t yell. I am too damned polite for that. Instead, I mutter under my breath. Or "remind" him of the proper placing of objects…blah blah blah~

The bottom line is that none of this works. I continue to find snacks on the WRONG shelves, milk in the closet (yep, you read that right!), and a whole bunch of objects placed in the strangest of places.

To add to my frustration, when my fella does the laundry…. My clothes are put in the strangest of places. I find my clothes in his drawers…and on his side of the closet! Yep, you read that right! I find my undies and socks in his drawers and the rest of my clothes are hung up next to his. Kinda cute…but not really!!!!!

This happens because he has ADD and can’t help it and I am mentally challenged and forget that this occurs. I spend time looking in my drawer wondering where my undies and socks…"Didn’t we just do laundry?" I think to myself.

After awhile, it slowly dawns on me. "We DID just do laundry!"

Sure enough, I look in my fellas drawer and there are my undies…not folded…in a pile with his undies. Kind cute…but not really!!!!

So, I decided that all my "good communication skills," were NOT WORKING. Time for REVENGE!!!!!! The next time I did laundry, I hung his clothes on my side of the closet, and stuck his undies and socks (folded…OF COURSE) in my drawer. Then, feeling very good about this latest change of tactic…poured myself a cup of tea~

Next morning, my fella was looking for something to wear. I walked into the room feeling quite pleased with myself because I could see that this is causing him some stress.
"I will BEND HIM TO MY WILL….FINALLY!!!!!!!!" I think to myself.

"Huh….I thought you just did laundry." my fella says

"Yep, I did." I smugly reply

"Huh…where are my clothes?" my fella asks

"On my side of the closet." I smugly reply

"OH" my fella says and then proceeds to find the shirt he wanted and then goes off to the shower.

Nothin!

He isn’t upset….he didn’t even seem to notice.

I follow him into the shower. I tell him what I did and explain that I had spent all of this time plotting revenge. He just grins back. I continue to explain that I wanted to punish him so he would STOP putting my clothes into his drawer!!!! He looks at me blankly.

BLANKLY!!!!!!!!!
Like I am crazy or something!

It began to dawn on me…that there was NOTHING I could do to BEND HIM TO MY WILL. I had to make a choice:

I could be pissy and frustrated for another bunch of years.
I could just remember that when he does the laundry…things will be in various hiding places.
…or I could strangle him and call it a day!

I decided that I kinda like him…so strangling him would mess that up a bit. I also can’t hold onto being pissy for too long. I am not sure if I get bored of that emotion, or what. So, I have decided to let this one go. At least for now.

I reserve the right to change my mind at any time!!!!

This time of year has everyone asking:
"What are your New Years Resolutions?"

I over heard a conversation at Barnes and Nobles:
Woman One:  "What are your New Years Resolutions?"
Woman Two:  "Uh…I hate that question…I don’t have ANY!"
Woman One:  "Seriously?  Well, you need something.  Maybe you can start going to the gym!"

Since when did New Years resolutions become a "must have?" 

This conversation reminded me of when my boys were younger and someone would ask me: "What are you doing with your kids this summer?"  And this someone would proceed to tell me all of the gajillion activities that she had her kids signed up for.  I would usually mumble something about "going to the beach alot."  These sort of moms would look shocked and act like I was the worse mom ever.  I just wanted to spend the summer hangin’ out being free!

Okay…so that might be a different blog topic. 
Back to resolutions…

So, if you are someone who is feeling bad because you don’t have any New Years resolutions here is a different way to bring in some expansive energy to enjoy!

Here are a few questions to sit with:

"What do I find fascinating?"
"What peeks my curiosity?"
"What kind of books do I enjoy reading?"
"What kind of movies do I love to watch?
"What kind conversations do I find fascinating and fulfilling?"

When you enjoy that pulse of fascination, you are sitting near or on top of something that could be a passion.  If you can, stay in the NOW of this fascination…try not to glide over   it.  Allow the feelings of this fascination to flow over you and through you. 

Now, where lots of folks…me included… get into a bit of a cuffufle with this..is this compulsion to go into some sort of action.  Here is an example:  Say you have a fascination with yoga.  You love doing yoga and you love reading about it.  Lots of curiosity here.  Right away, your mind goes into:  "I know I will become a yoga instructor! This will be my New Years resolution…to become a yoga instructor!"  You spend some time in the excitement of this…but, you are unable to sustain the vision. 

How come?

Well, my lovely readers….you went into action too soon or this fascination/curiosity with yoga is something that you enjoy…JUST CUZ!!!!!  Your inner you isn’t desiring anything other than the enjoyment of doing yoga and learning about yoga.

Now…this next statement is going to blow your minds.
Ready?????

Why not allow yourself to enjoy these fascinations…these curiosities…JUST CUZ!!!!
Just cuz they are fun!
Just cuz it feels good to be fascinated in something!
Just cuz it feels good to be curious about something!

And when that friend asks you:
"So, what are your New Year’s resolutions?"
You can say:
"I am playing with all those parts of this world that I find fascinating…thanks for askin;"

Have a fascinating day!!!!!!

Good day everyone!  (Imagine that being said in a light British accent.)

Woke up bright and early this morning…to a dark and lovely snowy morning.  I love this.  It feels so cozy and comfy.  Because it is so cozy and comfy….I just gotta have another cup of coffee.  I am supposed to only have one cup a day, due to an herb I am taking for this thingy that is going on with the ol' bod…I decided that since I have been eating cookies and chocolate for breakfast all week…maybe the coffee will help me digest all those sweets.  Ya know??????

So, I am sitting here with my second cup of steaming hot coffee…looking at the snow blowing softly out my office window…happy as a clam! 

I am definately a cheap date!

Okay…time to focus!

As January 1st approaches, many folks begin to take stock of the last year and make plans for the upcoming year.  Straddling the fence of the past and the future.  Making mental lists of accomplishments.  Making mental lists of those things that didn't happen. 

I have also noticed that folks use this time of year to beat the crap out of themselves!

I noticed myself doing this yeaterday!  It didn't seem to matter to me that I had a rough month of pain and that I didn't rip my clothes off and go screaming down the street!  It didn't seem to matter to me that I didn't strangle my fella or my kids during any of these clumps of pain.  It only mattered that I didn't make it to the gym or go on many walks this month.  My focus was only on the fact that my fanny was heading down south again!!!!

After beating the crap out of myself for awhile…I tuned in and heard what I was actually saying.  Yikes!!!  Let me put it this way….It wasn't pretty! 
It wasn't pretty at all!!!!!

This happens often with clients and friends.  It doesn't seem to matter how brilliantly they have lived their lives…they still find places where they are not good enough…not worthy enough…not loveable enough!  Fill in your favorite "not enough."

Now these critical voices have quite the long shelf life but we can quiet them down.  One of the ways to do this is build your internal gratitude muscle (or IGM for short).  This may take some time…but the more you focus on "gratitude", "appreciation", "postive aspects"…whatever words you like to use…the stronger this focus will become.  After awhile, that nasty little "not enough" voice diminishes.

One easy and powerful way to change your life is to start a gratitude journal.  I have been keeping one for years.  I don't write in it daily…a bit too free spirited for that!  But, I write in it at least a few times a week.  It reframes my life immediately.  My internal flow clicks in right away.  I can feel myself coming into alignment as soon as I begin writing.  It is magic!!!

If you feel inspired to do this…why not start right now!
You don't have to do this in a fancy pants journal…unless you want to.  I have a client who writes down positive aspects on post-its.  Just do it in whatever way that floats your boat!!!

Pick one…or two…or more!  Have at it!

*Write down 10 positive aspects about this year (2007)
*Write down 10 positive aspects that you appreciate about yourself
*Write down 10 positive apsects that you appreciate about your partner, your kids, your friends…who ever you want to personally acknowledge

The more you do this…the better you will feel. 

If you are a person who likes New Years resolutions, I invite you to add the resolution of appreciating yourself more,  appreciating your loved ones more, appreciating your world more….

I appreciate you reading this! 
Thanks and have a fabulous day!!!!

Hello there everyone~

I hope you all had a lovely holiday!

I am a bit hung over from the holidays. This last week was filled with shopping, movies, visits with friends, chocolate, hangin with my boys, more movies, more chocolate…oh and don’t forget the wine…and more shopping. Then there were presents to wrap, floors to sweep, toilets to clean…more wine…vacuuming, dusting, cooking…which for me means boiling water and cooking the pasta…oh, and opening the jar of sauce.

I have a Stimulation Hang Over!

I am not saying that I didn’t have a great time…I did! Love this time of year!

So, today…I worked with a few clients, took a bath, had a long meditation…which turned into a nap;). Had some more chocolate…which gave me a terrible stomach ache!
*Note to self: STOP EATING THE CHOCOLATE!!!!!!
Spent the afternoon in quiet. Ahhhhhhhhh quiet!!!!

As I read through emails today, I noticed that many of my clients were feeling the same way. So were the kids! One woman wrote me and said that her little boy looked at her and said: "I am tired mommy…I had too much fun!"

Out of the mouths of babes!!!!!

I am not sure what my point is…I am too hung over to be incredibly brilliant;)…

…but, if you are feeling a resonance with this idea of a "stimulation hang over," or SHO for short, I hope that you get a chance to have a bath, have a nap, read a little, rest a little and unplug!

On that note…time to turn my computer off and have a rest….
Ta Ta~